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From Among My Followers…

By Arif Kabir

In Sahih Al-Bukhari, it mentions that the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa sallam),

“From among my followers there will be some people who will consider illegal sexual intercourse, the wearing of silk, the drinking of alcoholic drinks and the use of musical instruments, as lawful.”

Nowadays, this Hadith is most often used in the debates regarding the permissibility of music in Islam. However, most people do not reflect on the whole Hadith and observe that all the signs have become commonplace among ‘followers’, as indicated by the Hadith, of Allah and His Prophet. Insha’Allah, we will be looking at all of the signs mentioned in the Hadith and note some real-day examples of these signs.

1. Music - I am sure that we have all witnessed this debate, of whether or not music is permissible or not in Islam, at some point in our lives. For those of you who may not know or believe that it is a ‘grey area’ with proofs on both sides, music is clearly Haraam, as shown by the Hadith and numerous other evidences. This has always been agreed upon until fairly recently, when some started to advocate for its permissibility. Of course, as the Hadith indicates, we know that some will eventually consider it to be lawful. Currently, the most prominent ‘Islamic music’ advocate, dubbed by TIME Magazine as ‘Islam’s Biggest Rock Star’, is Sami Yusuf. On his blog, he states that,

“I created records that were unthinkable by certain Islamic scholars, creating a new market among Muslims of all ages who were not permitted to listen to any popular music without incurring the wrath of family, friends and certain religious authorities.” Sitting there at the piano or violin, I never considered whether it was brave or stupid… …to create music no-one had ever created before … in a genre that didn’t exist …to a market which had never bought a pop record before.

Sounds pretty stupid right!

Yes, I’m sorry, but that sounds very stupid. To go against the very fundamentals and core of our religion, to create ‘records’ unthinkable by the majority of scholars, and then to blame parents fot ‘incurring their wrath’ when they are trying to make their children stay on the Straight Path… Very stupid indeed.

Picture by Haroon Q. Mohamoud, who says Sami Yusuf was "accompanied by an orchestra of percussion, string, wind and vocal instruments... :

Picture by Haroon Q. Mohamoud via Flickr, who says Sami Yusuf was "accompanied by an orchestra of percussion, string, wind and vocal instruments...

An interesting thing to note here by the way, is that for his first album, Al-Mu’allim, it was categorized as an Islamic Nasheed and thus confused and confounded thousands of Muslim youth. However, that deceptive marketing has come to an end. For the recent album, My Ummah, this is what the publishers have to say,

“Following al-Mu’allim came the groundbreaking, genre-defining album, My Ummah. Moving on from al-Mu’allim it was no longer ‘percussive’ or ‘anasheed’ orientated. Musically, it combined several different genres, perfectly blending into one another and exposing the listener to some truly powerful pieces of music.”

Yes, we hear you loud and clear. You have created a new genre, a genre that has made the use of musical instruments lawful. May Allah guide us all…

2. Alcohol – I went to a Muslim family’s house one day and they offered us food and a wine bottle. Yes, a wine bottle. Oh, but it was “alcohol-free.” Let us examine what that actually means:

Non-Alcoholic Beer

By Plindberg via Flickr: "Non-Alcoholic Beer"

On Wikipedia, under the topic of low-alcohol beer,  it states that,

Although labeled as non-alcoholic, some beers may still contain small amounts of alcohol; as a result, some American states prohibit their sale to minors and even to young adults.

In the United Kingdom, by government regulations, “alcohol-free” drinks are categorized into the following three categories:

Alcohol-free: Contains 0.05% alcohol or less
De-alcoholised: Contains 0.5% alcohol or less
Low-alcohol: contains more than 0.5% but no more than 1.2%

As one can easily see, there is actually alcohol in these so-called “alcohol-free” drinks!

While researching this topic, I came across this article:

“There are bar snacks, quiz nights, snooker tables and blaring music.

But if you fancy a beer you’ve come to the wrong pub.

The Halal Inn is open for non-alcoholic business only.”

A Halal pub?! That’s like saying a Halal Christmas tree or ‘Islamic Idol’ (which has sadly already begun)! There is a clear Hadith that mentions,

“Whoever resembles a people is one of them.”(Recorded by Abu Dawud)

I ask any fair-minded individual – if we are going around having Muslim pubs and trumping around with ‘non-alcoholic wine bottles’, are we not resembling a certain type of people?

3. Silk (for men) – Is silk ties allowed as we’re not exactly wearing them and they’re above our shirts? That is a question that is asked in many online Fatwa websites.

Pure Silk Ties

By Purolipan via Flickr

The answer is a resounding ‘no’ for men as the Prophet clearly said,

“Do not wear silk, for those who wear it in this life shall not wear it in the Hereafter.” (Reported by al-Bukhari and Muslim)

On certain sites, however, they believe it’s permissible to wear it as “decorative objects” and not dresses. On a Shi’a website, it stated that:

“And there is similarly no problem in using it [100% silk] for waist-band…lace/braid…even the inner-linning of suits, etc.

In Ahmad, Abu Dawud, An-Nasaa’i, and Ibn Majah, it has been reported that:

`Ali [a Sahabi that the Shia' especially venerate!] reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) took some silk in his right hand and some gold in his left, declaring, “These two are haram for the males among my followers.”

And yet, we actually see people selling “Islamic Silk Ties“…

There is a Hadith of the Prophet in which he mentions,

Leave that about which you are in doubt for that about which you are in no doubt. (At-Tirmidhi)

Every sin is a stepping stone for another one, so let’s not even try getting near the forbidden and doubtful matters. Instead of buying silk ties, there are better alternatives to this, such as Jaan J., a Muslim company that sells luxury satin ties.

4. Adultery/Fornication – In Surah Isra, Ayah 32, it states,”

“And come not near to unlawful sexual intercourse. Verily, it is a faahishah (a great sin) and an evil way.”

Imaam al-Qurtubi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: The ulama said that the phrase And come not near to unlawful sexual intercourse is more eloquent than merely saying Do not commit zinaa, because the meaning is, Do not even come close to zinaa. This means not doing any deed that may get close to zinaa or lead to it, such as being alone with a member of the opposite sex, touching, looking, going to evil places, speaking in a haraam manner to a woman to whom one is not related, thinking about and planning immoral acts, and so on.

With these proofs and so many others, I couldn’t even conceive how one could legitimize illegal sexual intercourse outside of marriage. Therefore, I was very much shocked when I read on Newsweek that,

One recent Gallup poll found that more than 30 percent of French Muslims were ready to accept homosexuality, compared with zero in Britain. Almost half of French Muslims believed sex between unmarried people was morally acceptable, compared with 27 percent of German Muslims.

50 percent of French Muslims believe that Zina is acceptable?! That amounts to more than 2,000,000 Muslims!

As we can see, the Prophet’s Hadith has come true, and has left no space for doubt. May Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala help us to stay away from the doubtful matters, and keep on His Straight Path. Ameen…

The Heart Wheel Journal Videos

To help us to stay consistent throughout Ramadan, here is a collection of videos for every single day in Ramadan, presented by Shaykh Muhammad AlShareef. The series is entitled “Heart Wheel Journal” and is based off of a 30-day Ramadan journal that one can use throughout the month. Alhamdulillah, it has become digitized into an online software.

MYM has compiled the following available videos from YouTube into an organized collection to make it easier for one to find each day’s videos. We pray that these videos prove to be useful for all. Ameen… Continue reading ‘The Heart Wheel Journal Videos’

52 Ways To Have A Ramadan Extraordinaire!

By Arif Kabir

MYM wishes you all a blessed Ramadan Mubarak!

Ramadan Ayahs

We have compiled a list of fifty-two different ways to make this Ramadan more blessed and productive for us in order to get the most out of this Ramadan for ourselves, our families, and our communities. Enjoy!

1. Ramadan Da’wah Plates – In The Muslim Link, they mentioned this story:

Sr. N, a first-grade teacher at Al-Huda School in College Park, Md., reaches out to her neighbors with food and fliers in preparation for this holy month…every Ramadan, Sr. N prepares 20 plates full of dates. She also attaches a letter, which she addresses to the neighbors. In little less than a page, Sr. N introduces her family and writes about their practices as Muslims. She also explains the significance of the holy month of Ramadan.

Hearing about this, a few community members in my area decided to do this with many of the local children. We bought dates, hershey kisses, greeting cards, paper plates, and colorful plastic wraps. We put about 5 dates and hershey kisses in each plate, had the kids write a poem in the greeting card  and pack all of it in the colorful plastic wrap. Both the brothers and sisters had separate get-together parties to work on this, and we made about 50 plates Alhamdulillah. The kids then went door-to-door, gave the dates, and explained what Ramadan is about. If we can do this on a grander scale, meaning that each person (or a group of people in a community) hold such a party at their house, then we can do a lot of Da’wah and also spend some time together in Ramadan.

2. – 45. Personal Ramadan Checklist - There is a daily Ramadan checklist that lists 37 different good deeds that we can do on a daily basis in Ramadan. These Ramadan good deeds have been broken down into times of the day, with 3 morning-specific activities, 25 achievements that can be done in the day, and 10 night-specific activities. Furthermore, there is also 6 good deeds that span an entire week as well as 5 Friday-specific activities. Please be sure to check it out!

48. – 52. Scholarly Advice -  Shaykh Tawfique Chowdhury wrote a beautiful post (published today), describing 5 ways to help us tackle the “Ramadan Blues”

Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

My dear friends and students,

Welcome to our long-lost friend: Ramadan. How we have missed the days of self-restraint and the nights of mercy and delight! After eleven months of sinning, we now have the opportunity to avail ourselves of a month of mercy and forgiveness. tcFor those whose duas have not been answered, the month of answered duas has arrived. For those who have drifted away from the soothing night prayer, or who have never achieved it, the month of the blessed taraweeh has arrived. Welcome to our Lord’s mercy: the month of Ramadan. No doubt each and every one of us approaches Ramadan with a special excitement. Alas for many of us, however: the excitement is met with fear and dread instead.

Will this Ramadan be like the previous ones where I failed to truly take full advantage and mend my ways?

Will this Ramadan only demonstrate to me how far away from Allah I truly am?

Will it be yet another month that passes by without my taking full advantage of it?
If you are feeling this way, know that you are not alone. Many of us feel this way and do not know how to tackle it. As a result, the fear and dread are enough for us to avoid setting new goals and higher aspirations for this month. As a result, we find ourselves at the end of the month in the situation of having failed to benefit from this opportunity and languishing in sorrow at the thought that we will never improve.

I too used to get these whispers and thoughts in my mind. However, I overcame these thoughts with the help of Allah. Here are five things that I have done to tackle these “Ramadan blues”. Let me share them with you; perhaps the suggestions may benefit you, and help you to overlook the past and focus on the future.

1. Good thoughts about Allah:I remind myself that my Lord is most Generous and Kind. He loves me sincerely. The proof is that even when I disobey Him He still provides for me. That is why He is giving me yet another Ramadan: yet another opportunity to get closer to Him again. He loves to forgive, and His best friends are those who seek His forgiveness the most. He has brought me to another Ramadan so that I can have yet another chance at Laylatul Qadr, and yet another chance to make my duas accepted at the time of iftar, and yet another chance to do Hajj with Rasul-Allah (sall-Allahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) by doing umrah in this month. He has brought me to Ramadan to sooth the sorrows in my heart with His remembrance, and for me to be reminded of the nights in my grave by the solitude of i’tikaaf: by seeing how it feels to be alone with Him in the mosque. He wants me to lighten the load on my mind, so that is why He has given me the month of the Qur’an: so that I can relive the amazing Word of my Rabb (Lord and Master). The salaf (pious predecessors) would beg Allah for another opportunity for Ramadan, so how fortunate I am that He has given me this chance once again. How fortunate I am that He has given me the chance to know when this month is, so that I can take advantage of it. How fortunate I am that He has given me the yearning in my heart to meet my Lord in this month – and I know that the one who loves to meet His Lord, Allah subhaanahu wa ta’ala also loves to meet him

2. Forget the past and focus on the future:I remind myself that past deeds are just that: a matter of the past. I live for the future, not the past. The past will be forgiven insha’Allah if I can mend the future. My concern should be the next deed that I do, because Allah loves to forgive; so I can have every confidence that He will forgive the past because I have nothing but regret for my past sins. The most important consideration for me is what sort of amends I make now. I remind myself of what Imam Ibnul-Qayyim (rahimahu-Allah) said in his Nooniyyah:

By Allah I am not afraid of my past sins,
For indeed they are upon the path of repentance and forgiveness;
Rather my real concern is that [in the next deed] this heart
Might cease to act upon revelation and upon the noble Qur’an.

3. Evaluate previous attempts in order to plan a strategy to make it work this time:I remember that it is illogical to think that my future chances of success are a reflection of my failures in the past. My past inabilities only show me what to do better this time so that I can increase my chances this time around. So if I tried to pray taraweeh every night but failed, I should look back at what happened in order to learn lessons from those failures. Was it that the Imam’s recitation was not good? If so, then let me try to find a mosque to go to whose Imam recites better. If I failed to complete reciting the whole Qur’an last year, let me look at why that was the case and how I can change it. Can I put up reminders to read the Qur’an, or shall I buy a few more copies of the Qur’an and put them in more convenient places, such as one in my car, another in my briefcase and another on my table, so that I have a mushaf always on hand? If I missed getting up for fajr last Ramadan, why did it happen and how can I change it? Perhaps I should buy more alarm clocks, so let me go to the store right now. Perhaps I should SMS my friends to start a fajr prayer-calling group so that each day one of us is responsible for waking the others up. Perhaps I should make my suhur my heaviest meal so that my body feels hungry at suhur-time and so I get up more easily.

4. Reward, challenge and penalise myself:I can plan and prepare to reward myself if I finish this Ramadan satisfactorily. So I tell myself that if I can make myself pray all my prayers at the earliest time this Ramadan and recite the Qur’an five times this month, then I will buy myself a new laptop; if I can recite it ten times then I will go away with my family for a holiday, or some other significant reward that I know I would definitely like to treat myself with. I warn myself that if I fail to at least recite the Qur’an five times in this month, then I will donate a thousand dollars to charity. I remind myself that even Allah’s Messenger sall-Allahu ‘alaihi wa sallam used to give worldly rewards to those who excelled in battle: e.g. half the war-booty from the raids to the Muslim knights who had taken part in the raid; he (saw) would consider it a great sin upon the one who fails to join the obligatory battle. In the same spirit of reward, challenge and penalty, I would do this for my children and my wife as well by helping them with a reward if they do something extraordinary this month, and a penalty if they did not even do the minimum extra level. In this way I can give them an added incentive to do good in this limited time of Ramadan. I remind myself that ultimately we must do it for Allah and never for a physical prize, but associating an emotional desire with an action and fear of a punishment at the non-performance of it will cause that action to be foremost in the subconscious part of my mind. I remind myself that the worst thing about not making this Ramadan special is going to be something worse than the penalty I have stipulated. It will be the disappointment of a Ramadan wasted, and the risk of Allah’s wrath.

5. Create peer-pressure and responsibility:I remind myself that if I make my friends and family aware of some of my goals, then they might help me. So I share some of my goals with them, ensuring that I am doing it to engage their help in performing it, not in a spirit of boasting. I hope that this will give me added support and encouragement to ensure that they help me in achieving the good things I have set out to do. If they do not help, at the very least they should not mind when I excuse myself from their service or company in order to spend some time on working towards my goal.

I hope that some or all of these things will help you to look upon this Ramadan with a fresh outlook. Make lots of dua to Allah that this Ramadan will be special for you, for your family, and for the Ummah of our beloved sall-Allahu ‘alaihi wa sallam. I am interested in hearing from you if you have other things that you do to focus positively at the advent of another Ramadan.

Jazaakumullahulkhair and my duas for you and your family for a fantastic and blessed Ramadan, insha’Allah;

wassalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

Tawfique Chowdhury

Director General
AlKauthar Institute and Mercy Mission World

If you have any more ideas on other Ramadan resolutions, please be sure to leave a comment!

May Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala make this Ramadan to be beneficial for us, and may He allow us to enter through the gates of Ar-Rayyan. Ameen…

How To Perform Repentance (part 2)

By Abdul-Basit Khan

Hey everybody, Ramadaan is really close now – there’s only like 1 or 2 days left!!! Can you believe it? You know, this is the time for us to start doing sincere Tawbah to Allah, (repentance from our sins, or returning back to Allah) because the Prophet mentioned in an authentic hadeeth that,

ورمضان إلى رمضان

“A Ramadaan to the next Ramadaan,

كفارة لما بينهن إذا اجتنبت الكبائر

…expiates all the sins (a person may have done) in between as long as the person avoids the Major Sins.”

This hadeeth is undisputedly authentic as it is recorded in Saheeh Muslim. However, our Prophet placed a condition there which many Muslims are not aware of! Ramadaan expiates all of your sins…as long as you have avoided the Major Sins. In Surah Najm, Allah says,

“As for those who avoid the [truly] grave [major] sins and shameful deeds – even though they may some­times stumble, behold, your Sustainer is abounding in forgiveness.”

Therefore, we see the tremendous importance of this Tawbah. Only through sincere repentance to Allah can our major sins be wiped away. So this is the time, with the beginning of the Month of Forgiveness, to start doing this Tawbah.

How to do Tawbah?  It’s not difficult at all, from a physical perspective. Continue reading ‘How To Perform Repentance (part 2)’

The Serpent Under The Innocent Flower

When you hold the door open for a person walking up to the door of a building, who is it for? When you say “yarhamukumullah” to a person who sneezes, do you truly mean  “may Allah have mercy on you” with a pure intention, or do you say it in order to give you the semblance of a righteous person?

Recently in class, we have studied Macbeth, a tale of deceit and betrayal, by William Shakespeare. This tale follows one paramount theme; “things are not what they appear.” This theme links to the characters and how their true intentions were hidden under disguised faces of innocence. The protagonist, Macbeth, is slowly driven to assassinate the king of Scotland in order for himself to become the king. He goes about this plan by inviting the king over for “dinner,” and ends up killing the king after the rest of the noblemen have gone to sleep. In the end, Macbeth faces a tragic death and gets beheaded by the prince’s noble. The thing about this story though, is that the main character constantly tries to renew his intention as a loyal servant and “valiant cousin,” but is edged on and on and incited by his wife to continue planning the murder of the king as she constantly questions his manhood and calls him a wimp (in Shakespearean language)! At a point in the story, she even tells him that during the dinner, that she would whisper through his ear the right timing for events and “the plan” to take place.

Whispering evil in one’s ear? Edging people on to do wrong? Laying out “footsteps” for wrong temptations to be facilitated? Who does that remind us of?

Continue reading ‘The Serpent Under The Innocent Flower’

Sailing Hearts and Ailing Hearts

By Ayman Nassar

[This post is from a highly skilled guest writer, Ayman Nassar, who is founder of Islamic Leadership Institute of America, works for IBM,  authors many books on project management and leadership, and has mentored Muslim and Non-Muslim youth in diverse capabilities. Catch him at his website and blog!]

Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu,

First of all, I thank my younger brothers for inviting me to write this youthful post. It’s a bounty from Allah that we have minds that reflect, and sleeves that are pulled up in our communities.

Its late and the end of the week, so I will be brief. I had an interesting day today and all praises to Allah, the Magnificent and the Most Merciful. Alhamdulillah, I accompanied the first visit by an Imam to the Howard County Detention Center [in Maryland, USA]. Although a medium size jail with about 325 inmates, 15 of which are Muslims, it is still a first-of-a-kind visit in Howard County, as far as I know.

Jail

By Sean Munson via Flickr

I was able to witness the smiles on the brothers faces as they saw the Imam and two volunteers enter the prayer room. It is no regular Friday when a volunteer from the Masjid comes in to give the khutbah. No, instead, the Imam himself is here speaking to these 15 brothers rather than his usual 600+ congregation 12 miles to the west. The knowledge was flowing across the room during the khutbah and after, as if a waterfall of wisdom had broke lose, and the thirsty roots of the plantations absorbed it all within.

Among the worshippers were brothers who are years old into Islam, others who were born into a Muslim family, and some who were six months old, and a few who were days old. These are hearts that found their Lord, found the truth, and are realizing the tranquility of Islam.

The afternoon ended with a different experience, when I came across a Facebook posting by Maryland’s first Muslim legislative delegate, who is proud to post that he wrote an article on supporting same-sex marriage rights. In his own words he says

“Homosexuality is strictly forbidden in Islam. As such I have evinced much grief from my most conservative supporters. But I recognize that I represent people of all faiths and no faith at all. If I tried to enforce religion by law — as in a theocracy — I would be doing a disservice to my both constituents and to my religion.”

It is obvious to any person, young or old, who knows a little about debate, that the argument presented above is broken. A policy maker can abstain from voting and can oppose if they believe that this is in the best interest of the people. However, to lead the push for same-sex marriage is just a total different story.

This article however is a clear proof to several key points. Both democracy and theocracy are failed systems.

A righteous leader does not please the masses, but rather pleases the Creator, and through his love to his followers, guides them to what benefits them.

Secondly, the laws of mankind change based on the interests of those pushing for them. These laws could be evil or good.

The laws of the creator are the just laws, the baseline and standard we go back to. There is no other choice; all other baselines are dynamic and do not qualify to be called baselines.

Finally, self interests are easy to detect. Self interests are based on nonfactual assertions, irrational logic, and invalid evidence.

Leadership is a big burden that rests on the shoulders of the brave. Only the guided can carry this responsibility correctly, and endure the distractions, plots and temptations that aim towards dropping the trust.

We ask Allah (SWT) to keep our hearts on the straight path, and as the beloved Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) used to say,

“Oh, You who turns the hearts, stabilize my heart on your obedience”.

A Brush With Jehovah’s Witnesses

By Arif Kabir

At college, we were asked to write a story that had to do with argument theory. I decided to write about an experience I’m sure almost every American Muslim has gone through. Enjoy!

The Jehovah’s Witnesses opened the gate leading to my house and I watched them slowly walking up to my door. “Here comes”, I thought wryly as they started to knock. I sighed as I thought of my predicament; here I was, taking the day off from school because I was feeling sick and instead of being allowed to rest in peace, there were a group of people that were (by now banging) at my door. Instead of using the usual tactics of ignoring the door when a telemarketer comes by, I decided to open the door as it might turn out to be an interesting experience.

Opening the door, I saw a mother with her sons all dressed in suits and in their Sunday best (and mind you, it was a weekday). They decided to begin their persuasion with a question, “what do you think about money?” I was impressed as I saw their latest technique; instead of trying to explain everything about their religion in a comprehensive matter, they were rather approaching me from one subject and going into detail about that. I quickly replied, “Money is a temporary pleasure that doesn’t truly bring happiness. [Surah Kahf - "Wealth and sons are allurements of the life of this world: But the things that endure, good deeds, are best in the sight of thy Lord, as rewards, and best as (the foundation for) hopes."] It should just be used as a means and not as an ends.” The lady’s expression quickly became flabbergasted as it became apparent that she wasn’t expecting this answer. She stuttered, “Well, that’s rather deep from a young man!”

I merely shrugged my shoulders and said, “These are not my own words but they’re rather words that are mentioned in my own holy book, the Quran.” She started to open her mouth in retort, but thought better of it and quickly changed direction by thrusting into my hands two think brochures with images of gold and money emblazoned on the front. She began her tirade of telling me that money is the root of all evils and started quoting from various passages in her bible. Throughout it all, I listened to her politely, smiling the whole time. When I finally started to tire as I was feeling sick, I asked her sweetly, “Would you please like to come in? We can discuss each others’ books and I can show you my own book and what we believe.”

The lady looked at me with a frown; clearly, this was not at all going how she expected. The kids around her were looking at me with curious expressions as I opened my door and gestured for them to come in. The mother quickly put a protective arm around her children and told them to stay back. She looked at me and said, “Maybe another time. I might come back later” as she briskly led her children away. I waved at the kids, said, “Come back anytime”, and as they went to the next household, quickly closed the door and shot back to the comfort of my couch, grinning broadly. Life was good…

The amazing thing was that after I posted it on our college’s message board, I got a reply and it was surprisingly approving of my writings:

I thought that this was a very interesting story. I am not a Muslim, but I admire and see eye to eye with certain issues with the Muslim faith. Another thing that I liked in your story was how you incorporated a quote from the Quran. You defiantly showed your side of the story and stood firm with your opinion.

Alhamdulillah, I was able to do Da’wah on both fronts :)